30 percent of the evangelical Christians in today’s modern, liberalized Churches now falsely file for divorce even because they are not really true, practicing Christians but imposters, pretenders. I was also recently amazed at the local PAOC Pentecostal church that hypocritically permitted divorce, that God hates, but the same Church enforces Old Testament mandatory tithing.. doing whatever it takes to keep the religious empire going.. To continue going to this watered down church I next would have to betray many of my valid Christian beliefs, doctrines too. http://pbulow.tripod.com/tithing.html
When And Why Marriage Came About
It was in the Garden of Eden that marriage began between God’s created beings, man and woman. Man as in mankind, didn’t come up with the brilliant idea, “hey, let’s go get married.” No, marriage was God’s idea and it was for a godly reason, which is therefore why it is a law. Marriage is a law because it refers to the command by God Almighty for a man and a woman to be fruitful and multiply. God chose not to create bunches of people at the same time, but He created Adam and Eve, and He opted to make this one couple to …Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth…(Genesis 1:28), and of course this was with His blessing. Man and woman were created for companionship and blessed in marriage union as “one” for procreating godly seeds.
And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed [children]… (Malachi 2:15).
The law of marriage is a covenant or agreement/vows between a man, a woman, and God their creator. What makes this agreement between the man and the woman binding, is the seal placed upon it, and that seal being God Almighty, in which case the third party witness and the only witness to what is in their hearts.
Question: What is meant by God being the seal placed upon the union between a man and a woman?
Answer: God has made an end to two individual lives and has now made the man and woman, through agreement/vows, a one-flesh entity. God no longer sees them as twain (two), but as one.
Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, for this cause [marriage] shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave [cling] to his wife: and they twain [two] shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder (Matthew 19:4-6; Genesis 2:24).
The presence of God Almighty as the Third Party witness in a marriage covenant makes it a lifetime, unconditional commitment between the man and the woman. Because marriage is a lifetime commitment, vows are necessary and must be fulfilled.
Marriage Is Vowing And God Is A Witness
Wedding vows or promises are most serious. On account of them being made before God, they are as serious as the breath of life itself. Serious because you are promising to God to love and honor your mate until forever and forever regardless of one day awakening to find that the Devil has put in your heart that you two should not be together.
The “if and then” clause is characteristic of a vow. If one party will do a particular thing, then the other party will respond to that by doing a particular thing in return. This is what marriage vows are all about – they are conditional or dependent on actions. Some good examples of vows are Jacob (Genesis 28:20-22), Israel (Numbers 21:2-3), Jephthah (Judges 11:30), and I Samuel 1:11 (Hannah).
When one makes a vow/promise, he or she binds their soul with a bond (Numbers 30), and is not to break his or her promise. The meaning of a vow still stands, and making a vow is humbling because one has to live up to what has been promised by him or her. To bind yourself with a bond in vowing, in the case of marriage, is to be under obligation to God and the mate you are now “knit together” with to perform all that you promised. (Bond means obligation and bind is to knit together with your mate in marriage.)
When thou shalt vow a vow unto the Lord thy God, thou shalt not slack to pay it [you must not breach your promises]: for the Lord thy God will surely require [demand] it of thee; and it would be sin in thee [if you don’t keep your word] (Deuteronomy 23:21).
You have vowed to God and your mate to remain until the death of either of you, and if you don’t live up to it or if you are “slack to pay it” as God demands, you are in sin. Saints, when you break your vows/promises by divorcing your mate for other than fornication/sexual sin, you sin. You sin because you chose to be married. God never said, “all must make vows.” God ordained the act of marriage for all to see and as free moral agents, to make the choice to be married or remain single. When you made the choice to be married, you said you were willing to perform the expected behavior required of you in carrying out the marriage vows. God did not make you commit to getting married. It is written that
if thou shalt forebear [say no] to vow, it shall be no sin in thee (Deuteronomy 23:22).
It is not a sin to be unmarried. The Word of God goes on to say to those who make vows, such as wedding vows,
That which is gone out of thy lips [when you verbally committed/vowed] thou shalt keep and perform… (Deuteronomy 23:23).
You must carry out your wedding vows or else you are in sin because you have attempted through divorce to undo the miracle of one-flesh entity that God performed at your ceremony.
Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth…the wife of thy covenant (Malachi 2:14).
You so-called Christians, God was a witness between you and your mate – the mate of your covenant – the mate you promised to be with until death separated you. Don’t you respect God’s Word and promises with regard to your marriage vows? God hates covenant-breakers, therefore He hates divorce, and He says so in the Old Testament. Don’t attempt to ignore what is written there because it still holds. It wasn’t nailed to the cross with Jesus as were the carnal ordinances of the Law of Moses. God made you and your mate one and hates it when you break up the union.
For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away (divorce)… (Malachi 2:16).
A marriage is troubled because one or both (usually one) in the marriage has allowed Satan to (1) work on his or her mind, and (2) after much thinking, allowed those thoughts to move to the heart and work there for the committing of the sin of divorce. Saints, SIN is the root cause of divorce. It’s not always sexual sin, but it’s sin nonetheless. I don’t care how you look at your reasons for wanting to divorce your mate (other than fornication), SIN is the root cause for divorce. You can dress divorce with all the reasons in the world for it coming to pass, divorce is still wearing the garment of SIN. The proper attire for divorce is something or someone else is more important that keeping marriage vows to God and your mate.
You leaders in The Church that are initiating divorce from your mate, but encouraging the mate to file for the divorce since it wouldn’t look right for your to do so, fearing it would hurt the ministry, don’t kid yourself. The ministry was hurt when you let the notion to divorce go from your mind to your heart resulting in you acting on that which was in your heart. In fact, the ministry was hurt long before that. Your relationship with The Lord cooled down as your flesh became more, and more demanding, and pride took precedence.
The marriage is troubled because the flesh of one mate wants what is most pleasing to his or her fleshly appetite. Yes, fleshly appetite because it sure isn’t “spirit.” Remember, the spirit is always willing to do God’s will, but the flesh isn’t. The flesh is weak and is always resistant to God’s will by fighting the spirit to get the right-of-way. The flesh is the working of Satan against God’s will for when it comes to putting asunder the marriage of a man and a woman – divorce.
You who have divorced your mate for reasons other than fornication, you chose the easy way out – the fleshly way – the sinful way. For divorce brings about confusion and God is not the author of that. Therefore you know you have violated God’s will for your life because you didn’t put God and your mate before what “self” wanted.
Grounds For Divorce
God has said that what He joins together in a one-flesh entity, let no man put asunder or separate them (Matthew 19:6). Marriage before God is indissoluble because something miraculous has taken place there – the man and woman have become as one. It applies if you were married before a minister or before a Justice of the Peace as well. God is still in it because it is He who performs the miracle of one-flesh entity. It is He who is the seal on the relationship. It is He who performs the procreation miracle of children from the union. Marriage is holy! Saints, making marriage vows is very, very serious. That cannot be stressed enough. You just do not break vows made to God and your mate, for God expects you to keep your word. If your word means nothing, then you are a liar and cannot be trusted. (Why would God trust you with a ministry?)
As was said before, vows are voluntary. You choose to make vows. However, once you make the marriage vows or any other solemn promise, and especially before God, your keeping those vows is compulsory. That’s why marriage is indissoluble.
If a man [mankind] vow a vow unto the Lord, or swear an oath to bind his soul with a bond; he shall not break his word, he shall do according to all that proceedeth out of his mouth (Numbers 30:2).
When thou vowest a vow unto God, defer not to pay it; for he hath no pleasure in fools: pay that which thou hast vowed [keep your promises]. Better is it that thou shouldest not vow, than that thou shouldest vow and not pay (Ecclesiastes 5:4-5).
Remember the immutability of God. Yes, this is in the Old Testament as well, but it wasn’t nailed to the cross. This still stands. You may have changed, but God is still the same – no change in His Word.
You so-called Born Again Christians that have or are contemplating divorcing your mate for reasons such as irreconcilable differences, impotency, abandonment, spousal abuse, life in danger, insanity, drug addiction, alcohol addiction, barrenness, or any and all reasons other than fornication, YOU ARE IN SIN. Grounds other than fornication don’t stand with God. Those other grounds – well – that’s where your faith should kick in. You are to cry out to God for change in both you and your mate. In the spirit realm, you are to fight for your mate’s deliverance from those demon spirits of alcohol and drugs. Those are spirits that have these people bounded. In the spirit, you are to fight for your mate’s deliverance from abuse and insanity. Pray and believe God for deliverance from impotency and barrenness – believe God for fertility and wait on Him while you live a life of holiness and righteousness. It’s a demonic spirit behind everything that is not like God, including a brutal stalking mate. Bind that spirit up in the name of Jesus and remain in prayer for God to deliver that person and turn his or her life around. “The ball is in your court.” No, the work is too hard and you’d rather take the quick and easy way out – DIVORCE. Hello! God is not buying that from you. The quick and easy way out is SIN – “death.”
The Biblical reason of fornication or sex outside of marriage being the only justification for divorce is because extramarital affairs weaken or threaten the foundation of family life. When you have sex with someone other than your mate your soul is knitted to that person while you have already been knitted to your mate. Looks like polygamy, doesn’t it? The man for instance, married/knitted with his wife’s soul and now knitted as well with a strange woman. Ugh! Nasty! Not only is disloyalty there, but it’s whoredom and whoredom brings about confusion. The unfaithful mate is confused about who he or she really wants to be knitted to, and the author of confusion is none other than Satan, and out of that confusion comes guilt and unhappiness. The aftereffect of it all is the weakening of the family organization that God established for the replenishing of the earth – family failure. That’s not God’s handiwork.
It must be said that even if your mate is a fornicator or adulterer, you should leave room for forgiveness. Look at the number of times God forgave Israel, His wife, for adultery before He sent Israel into Diaspora with partial blindness. By forgiving your mate for that sin, as with God, it does not mean you condone it, but the person is given the opportunity to truly repent – that is, be sorry, not do it again, and start over. Starting over does not mean with a new man or woman in your life, for that is continued adultery. Remember when Jesus met the Samaritan woman at Jacob’s well and He spoke to her about drinking water after which she would never thirst again. She asked Jesus for it, and He replied
Go, call thy husband, and come hither. The woman answered and said, I have no husband. Jesus said unto her, Thou hast well said, I have no husband: For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly (Matthew 4:16-18).
She was to go and sin no more as Jesus told the woman caught in adultery in John 8:11. If you left your mate and took on another, God forgives you if you are truly repentant, but part of the repentance package is giving up or coming out of that adulterous marriage and living a life of celibacy if you reject healing and restoration with the previous mate.
go, and sin no more (John 8:11).
This isn’t saying God will make holy your adulterous marriage, but He is saying, “I don’t condemn you, but don’t do this again.” He is saying, “Stop! Come out of this relationship because this is not your mate. This isn’t the one I joined you with.” Remember, if you don’t want your marriage to be restored, you must live a celibate life until Jesus comes or your first mate dies.
The idea of celibacy may be hard for some of you, but even Kathryn Kuhlman realized she had to come out of the marriage she was in. The man divorced his wife and children to marry Kathryn. It must be done the way she did it. (Note: I respect her for having done that, but not her ministry of spiritism.) The adultery madness has to stop somewhere. You are not happy in that state with the new mate. When you deal treacherously (unfaithfully) with your original mate, you are not happy. If you say you are happy, you’re telling a lie, for God will not allow you to be happy after you have broken your marriage vows.
The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain [two], but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder (Matthew 19:3-6).
A person must not break in two the bond of oneness between self and mate because God has performed a miracle that cannot be reversed for reasons other than fornication. When God performs the miracle, it is not to be meddled with by mankind. That’s why He says, “let no man put asunder.” So, when one divorces his or her mate on grounds other than fornication, that person is attempting to undo a miracle performed by God Almighty. Who are you, you miserable character?
They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so (Matthew 19:7-8; Mark 10:4-9).
Back in Genesis when God instituted marriage, He never intended for divorce to take place. In Moses law, divorce was permitted, but Moses’ law did not prevail over God’s original intent for marriage to be forever. Remember, Moses’ law was placed on the outside of the Ark which meant it could be changed, and did indeed have changes made to it. God’s Law was placed on the inside of the Ark and could not be changed. No, “Thou shalt not commit adultery” was not eradicated or changed in any way. (For a better understanding of the law, go to Are You Really Not Under The Law?) In the beginning God married one man to one woman and that was that. Now you are probably thinking that because God didn’t strike dead the men of old for their quick and easy divorces and the polygamous households that God simply accepted those practices. You are also probably thinking that if I divorce my mate and remarry, God will forgive me and I can go on in this new marriage with this new person. Well, that just isn’t so, especially since Jesus came and showed us all that we can, and must live, holy and obedient lives before The Lord God Almighty. God, in this dispensation, would not even wink at Jacob having his many wives and concubines let alone you. Those days are long gone. In this dispensation, God would not wink at King David’s affair and murder to cover up his sin of fornication. God hasn’t winked His eye at sin since Jesus Christ came to tell the truth to all people, and God isn’t winking his eye at your sin of divorcing and remarrying as Born Again Christians in The Church of Jesus Christ.
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication [sex with one other than your mate], and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother’s womb [underdeveloped]: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men [castrated]: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake [chosen to abstain from sex]. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it (Matthew 19:9-12 and Luke 16:18).
I rather think eunuch here is in reference to sex organs, and this is why: The word eunuch is believed to have come from the Assyrian language meaning one who could be trusted, but the Hebrew word for eunuch (caric) means to castrate. Our Lord had to have meant eunuch from the position of sex organs and not that of one employed because he could be trusted. How could one be born as “one who could be trusted”? Notwithstanding, one could be born without fully developed genitalia.
Understand that (1) if you divorce your wife or husband, it is only acceptable before God on the grounds of fornication. (2) Divorce is not considered adultery just because you divorce your mate. Divorce is adultery when (a) you who divorced your mate go and marry someone else; and/or (b) you who divorced your mate does not marry, but the mate you divorced remarries whereby that remarried mate and their new spouse are committing adultery and it’s all because of you who initiated the divorce in the first place. Adultery is singled out in the 7th Commandment which is on the fleshly table of your heart – Thou shalt not commit adultery (Exodus 20:14). This is serious. Saints, when you divorce a mate for reasons other than fornication (1) you must remain single, which means sex is over with for you because there is no sex outside of marriage – that’s sin; or (2) go back to your mate that you divorced.
Marriage is serious business. But, the Word of The Lord to you (both male and female) who divorce on grounds other than fornication, you must become eunuchoid or one abstaining from sex and marriage, unless the other mate dies. It is not physical castration, but it is sexual abstinence. The Word of The Lord to you is, make yourself a eunuch by abstaining from sex for the Kingdom of Heaven’s sake, and for the sake of your salvation. As a eunuch you will better serve in the Kingdom of Heaven because you will not have to be concerned about pleasing your mate. Personally, I love being a eunuch and I have been one since August 1983 (currently 2000). August 1983 was when the man whom I thought I was going to be with “until death we parted” walked out on three children and I – never to return. At that time, I wasn’t “Born Again” but yet I knew that though still married to the man, I could not date, let alone sleep with a man, because I would have been a fornicator. So, my prayer to God, with my Catholic mind, was, “Lord, please don’t let me commit adultery” and He kept me from any thought of doing such even until this day. God began changing my life and brought me through every step of the way. Even though I prayed for my marriage to be restored, I learned that God was never ever going to override that man’s will and force him back home, but He instead blessed me to fall madly in love with Him and the work He called me to do, thus keeping my mind and heart on the kingdom. To this day I do not think about the ex-husband nor do I think about being married to anyone else. I don’t even reminisce about so-called “good old days” and I have God to thank for that. I love being a eunuch – abstaining from sex, and it’s easy when you have a real relationship with The Lord. The other things just don’t matter.
What God has done for me, He wants to do for all of you who didn’t keep the marriage covenant and are not in another marriage as an adulterer. The Lord said,
All men [mankind] cannot receive this saying [being a eunuch], save they to whom it is given (Matthew 19:11).
The word given, meaning “presented” to you as an option when you break the marriage vows by divorcing your mate for reasons other than fornication. It’s been given to you but do you receive it?
What It Means To break Marriage Vows
Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously (unfaithful) against the wife of his youth. For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away (divorce): for one covereth violence (maltreatment; wrong) with his garment (Hebrew word “bagad” meaning deceitful or unfaithful), saith the Lord of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously (Malachi 2:15-16).
“You covereth violence with your garment” means you have wronged your mate by being unfaithful in keeping your marriage vows. To break your marriage vows is being unfaithful to God and your mate. You betrayed their trust in your words and your actions. You are a “liar” and you can’t be trusted. Not only did you lie to God Almighty, but also to your mate. Because you lied, you are not happy and will not be happy until you have personally made amends with God and your mate. The Word of God says,
…he that speaketh lies shall not escape (Proverb 19:5).
You will not have peace in your soul for breaking your promises to The Lord and your mate. It will not be life as usual until you come face-to-face with both the direct and indirect painful results you are responsible for.
1. You lied about reverencing God’s presence and His seal at the marriage ceremony.
2. You lied about not violating your solemn vows before God because you didn’t trust God to keep His part of the agreement – keeping the marriage together. All you cared about was “self” and how “self” felt, so you therefore didn’t believe God to bless the marriage, grant you fulfillment in it, and bless your home with peace. YOU THOUGHT THE GRASS WAS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE.
3. You lied about loving your mate, comforting, and honoring your mate in sickness and in health.
4. You lied to God about forsaking all others of the opposite sex and keeping to the mate that He was a witness to your union within one flesh for as long as you live.
You lied! You lied to God. You thought the grass was greener on the other side.
You lied! You only cared about how you felt, and not God nor anybody else.
5. You lied to God and your mate when you said you wanted your mate to be wedded to you – to have and to hold from that day forward for better for worse, for richer for poor, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish “till death do you part” according to God’s holy ordinance.
You lied! You lied to God. You thought the grass was greener on the other side, but let me tell you, it has to be mowed over there as well.
When one makes a vow unto God as in marriage vows, and he or she keeps their part of the promises, God will make sure that the couple stays together. You have to love God more than anything to want to keep your promises to Him and your mate, otherwise you will divorce. You will sin and risk going to hell. Yes, going to hell because you broke the 7th Commandment of God’s High Holy Standard for mankind by breaking your marriage vows.
The Sorrow In Those Second And Subsequent Adulterous Marriages
The blessing of the Lord, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it (Proverb 10:22).
Sorrow is grief, anguish, pain, remorse, misery, sadness, difficulty, distress, and some. I don’t care how much and how hard you try to make these adulterous marriages work by believing continually that God has forgiven you and has blessed the marriage, sorrow is added to it. I don’t care how determined you are to stick with this mate and the children you possibly have from the marriage, sorrow is added to it. There is much sorrow in these adulterous marriages because you sinned by breaking your marriage vows before The Lord and your mate. You disobeyed God’s commandment to not commit adultery when you became the power to put asunder your mate; you became the power that unraveled the miracle of one-flesh entity that God performed between you and your mate. You made yourself “the power” in God’s place. That’s called pride. It was pride that got Lucifer in trouble and it’s that same pride that has you in trouble until you rectify this whole mess.
There is much sorrow in these adulterous marriages but you think it will gradually dissipate. No, you’re dead wrong. God has not, cannot, and will not bless these relationships as long as your divorced mate is alive. These unsanctioned marriages will never be placid, and the more you attempt to draw closer to God for a settled peace, you will not be able to until you come out of the relationship. It is when your desires line up with God’s will that you will experience peace. Worse than that, the longer you are not in one accord with God’s will, you’re just a “faking and shaking” Christian who is on the way to hell. No, it’s not “once saved-always saved.” It’s do it God’s way or burn later. You must make the choice. The Hebrews made the choice when leaving Babylon – they made the choice to give up those mates and children because it was God’s will (Ezra 10), and you have to make the choice.
Kathryn Kuhlman’s Adulterous Marriage
Kathryn Kuhlman was in an adulterous marriage and the guilt of it was heavy upon her. While already an evangelist, she met another evangelist who had a wife and two sons. Apparently they had something going on and he divorced his wife to marry Kathryn. He lied and said that his wife abandoned him by going back to Austin for the children to attend school. Like it was said before, God knows the whole truth whereas ordinary people don’t always know the whole truth. The people in Denver where Kathryn was preaching begged her not to marry the man because of what he had done, and she married him anyway. In those days (1930s and 40s) the people would not sit under your ministry if you had committed adultery by divorcing your mate or marrying someone who was divorced, and they were absolutely right. As a result, word got around and when she and the hubby went to the various churches, they weren’t welcomed so their ministry was going down. Kathryn tried preaching without the husband, but word still traveled and she wasn’t welcomed.
Kathryn knew, from her study of the Word of God and her experience with Him as a loving Father, that God was able to take even an impossible marriage situation, one that was born in sin and rebellion [excluding adultery/divorce], and turn it into something pure and holy – without dissolving the relationship…She had seen others do exactly what she and Burroughs [husband, Burroughs Waltrip] had done, and watched as God heard their cry of confession and their plea for forgiveness, and had granted them new hearts along with His allowance for them to remain together. (Daughter of Destiny. Jamie Buckingham. Logos International, Plainfield, NJ p 90, 1976.)
This was precisely what Kathryn and Burroughs were believing God for, so they kept trying to make it work for six years, but the sorrow mounted. Finally she repented – as to completely turn around, and left the marriage. It was difficult for her as it was for the Hebrews in Ezra 10, and as it will be difficult for you. But, if you’re going to call yourself a child of God, a Saint, you’ve got to do what you’ve got to do and God will bring you through just like He wanted to bring you through a successful marriage before you divorced your mate or committed fornication and became divorced.
In the book, “Daughter of Destiny,” Burroughs Waltrip was referred to as “a man of God” but I beg to differ with you. A man of God is one who walks with God. Walking with God is walking upright before Him in righteousness and holiness, not in adultery – not as a liar. (Bishop Clarence McClendon also refers to himself as a man of God, but yet an adulterer.)
These six things doth the Lord hate; yea, seven are an abomination unto him…a lying tongue (Proverb 6:16-17).
When you commit adultery by divorcing your mate, you brake your word to God and your mate thus making you a liar. You’re slowly but surely destroying yourself. When you commit adultery through divorce you are destroying your soul (Proverb 6:32), and as long as you stay in those adulterous relationships you are steadily destroying your soul because of the continuous sin. That sin doesn’t go away until you get out of it. It does not go away as long as you are in a soul-tie situation.
Peep Into Who You’ve Been Supporting
John Jacobs: His so-called ministry was hurt from its inception when he incorporated martial arts into Christianity. He was headed downward beginning with that. John divorced his wife of 16 years, Ruthanne due to irreconcilable differences. She, however, did not want the divorce. Let’s see now, where is that in The Bible? I don’t see it. (That was very familiar. The same grounds charged by the man I was married to.) What does that mean? It means there is a conflict in what the couple believes in or stand for and they just cannot come into one accord, therefore are not capable of being reconciled – inharmonious. Ruthanne was not guilty of fornication (neither was I), but according to John, the irreconcilable differences went back to the beginning of the marriage. Where was Jesus in the individual lives for 16 years? Without a doubt, John obviously did not have a real or genuine relationship with The Lord that he broke the marriage vows that God miraculously sealed. This is what John had to say:
There was nothing about this divorce that had to do with a sin problem. Divorce was my last choice. (Charisma News Service, August 25, 2000)
John, my dear man, divorce may have been your last choice, but it was that choice that made your action SIN.
The Jacobs had adopted a little boy who is now three years old. If the real reason for the divorce was due to impotency or barrenness, that was still no grounds for divorce. Abraham didn’t leave Sarah and God blessed that marriage. The article went on to say that
Jacobs had ‘been wounded by divorce, but…returned to his calling.’
Who called him? It sure wasn’t God.
Bishop Clarence McClendon: The Bishop – a Born Again Christian and a minister of the Gospel, in this year 2000, divorced his wife and four children of 16 years. He said,
the only reason [it/marriage] lasted as long as it did was because we both loved God (Charisma News Service, Vol. 2, No. 89, July 5,2000).
Church, Clarence McClendon shot himself in the foot with that statement – “they both loved God.” Isn’t that what a married couple is suppose to do? If he and his wife both loved God, they would have loved each other and would still be together. Since they are not together, one of them, and it was Clarence McClendon, didn’t love God like he thought he did. He loved “self” above God. He loved what pleased him and made him feel good above God. You see Saints, if Clarence McClendon had loved God, he would still be keeping his marriage vows to Tammera and God, The Seal – the Third Party in the agreement, would have kept them together as His part of the agreement. Bear in mind, God would never override Clarence McClendon’s will to divorce his wife for reasons other than fornication.
His so-called ministry was hurt when he began to exhibit himself as “Mister-I-Have-Arrived,” and taking up a second collection during church services just for him. By the way, it was this same fellow who is so special in The Kingdom that while he was yet married to Tammera, he was silly enough to tell her that
God had shown him who he was suppose to marry (Charisma News Service, Vol. 2, No. 133, “Ex-Wife of L.A. Pastor Clarence McClendon Disputes Divorce Account.” September 7, 2000).
Clarence McClendon, you were duped by the working of Satan in your flesh. If you had had a real relationship with God, you would have immediately allowed His Word to rise up in you telling you that He hates divorce, adultery, sin, and pride in a person. (Note: After all of that, those churchgoers are still sitting under that adulterous man! God forbid!)
Oh, and by the way, he married the woman Priscilla Delgado seven days after his divorce was finalized. Tell me now if McClendon was not already in an adulterous relationship with Priscilla Delgado while married to Tammera. (The Charisma article noted McClendon was accused of adultery and also of having fathered a child by a woman other than his wife.) This ministry of the Bishop’s was in a lot of trouble before he convinced his wife to file so that it wouldn’t look bad for him and the ministry.
This Clarence McClendon is also a liar. He said that Tammy
just made a decision about what she wanted to do with the rest of her life.
No, sir. According to the Charisma report that quoted Tammy, you, Clarence McClendon, made the decision for her. She did not want the divorce even though he had been wanting to leave her for five years.
Bishop McClendon said the following about the rumors of his fidelity:
It is the work of the enemy to silence the prophetic voice…I’m a holy man of God. I’ve lived my life by the Word of God (Charisma Magazine, August 2000).
A holy man of God living by God’s Word! Please! To cast your eyes upon this man you see the puffed-up arrogant specimen of a male whose mannerisms are those of one who thinks he’s “the fairest of them all” – “STUCK ON ‘SELF.’”
The so-called holy man of God said, I have a calling to preach, not to be married. Imagine that? That being the case, why did he immediately after the divorce get married to Priscilla?
He further stated, My calling is between my heavenly Father and myself. It doesn’t affect my ministry. Dear man, you’re a liar. You don’t have a heavenly Father that you reverence. If you had, you wouldn’t be an adulterer in an adulterous, unsanctioned-by-God marriage. Yes, you’re absolutely correct – your divorce and remarriage doesn’t affect your ministry because that preaching you’re doing in that building is not The True Church of Jesus Christ. So, no, you’re not affected.
Richard Roberts: His so-called ministry was hurt when he teamed up with his dad, Oral, and put his dad before his wife Patty. Yes, his one-flesh entity was with his dad and not his first wife, Patti. Richard’s so-called ministry was hurt when he supported his dad’s worldly-wise fundraising schemes to build up the Oral Roberts University and that medical center, which by the way, flopped. It flopped because God wasn’t in that. Seed-faith offering was and still is one of their biggest fundraising schemes, which Patti spoke against – and she was absolutely right. Giving out of your need is not the same as giving out of your love and obedience to God. Giving out of your need is turning God into a “Sugar Daddy” that will drop anything you want on you anytime you want, and people don’t manipulate God. Seed-faith offering is manipulative and that is not Scriptural.
Oral said to Patti,
Patti, why don’t the two of you just get a divorce? I’ll just tell my partners you couldn’t make it, and we’ll let the chips fall where they may… (Ashes to God. Patti Roberts. Word Books Publisher, Waco, TX p 129, 1983.)
Where was God in this “godly man Oral Roberts”? Sure enough Oral, wife Evelyn, and son Richard went on a fishing trip and upon return the decision had been made for Richard and Patti to divorce. Of course Patti didn’t want this and probably neither did Richard, but because his dad and that ministry were more important than him pulling out of Tulsa with his wife Patti and two children to start anew, he gave in to what pleased his dad. Didn’t the Word say, leave father and mother? Yea, I thought so, but Richard Roberts ignored The Word of God. In fact, he left God out of the marriage.
This was another one of those cases where the wife was urged to get the divorce because it would look bad for Richard and the ministry, which she did do. Well, Church, 10 months latter Richard married Lindsey and they started a new family – an adulterous one that is. God only knows, Richard, if you had remained with Patti, perhaps your posterity would not have been cut off.
John Hagee: This man is a very popular preacher in the world of Charismatics. He and his current wife Diana, pastor a very large church in San Antonio. Before now, he was pastoring a church in San Antonio and admittedly was in immorality. He divorced his wife Martha and two children in 1976 and married Diana Castro, a young woman in his congregation, and started a new family. Mr. Hagee seems to be happy, but is he? His church is a big one, but does that mean God is there? He’s written or rather had ghostwritten, many books, but does that mean he is anointed by God to do so? Is John Hagee’s life and ministry kosher with God?
One day I happened to tune in to John Hagee’s program and he was teaching on love. My heart was stricken when I heard this adulterer say such things as:
Marriage is an attempt to find love.
Love makes a covenant in marriage. (Oh, really, now! What do you know about that?)
Love is loyal.
If you want to do something for someone, love someone. (Unbelievable!)
If you want to do something for God, either come from behind the pulpit while in your adulterous state, or give up that unsanctioned adulterous marriage and family?
Arthur Blessitt: This man has been carrying a 12-foot cross around the world since 1969. He has gone into about 280 plus countries, doing what he said God told him to do, which I rather doubt. I doubt it because The Lord never ordered The Church to literally carry a big cross around on wheels, but did say take The Gospel to the people. It’s not the visible showing of a wooden cross that reminds or draws people to Jesus, but the all-powerful Word of God. Personally, I rather think Mr. Blessitt was tricked by the voice of the enemy to do such a duncical thing. Satan makes one do stupid things. The cross represents a dead Jesus Christ who never resurrected, when Jesus did in fact resurrect from the dead. The cross symbol is an accursed tree. The cross is symbolic of Jesus’ humiliating and agonizing death (memento mori” – a reminder of death or mortality, or a reminder that we must die). My questions is, why are we to remember death when Jesus didn’t stay in the grave but resurrected, as we will resurrect. So, you see, Satan tricked Arthur Blessitt into parading around the globe with an accursed symbol all these years, and his relationship with Christ was spiraling downward. He had a wife named Sherry and many children – if my memory serves me right, several children (7?), with one of them being mentally challenged. While carrying that old rugged cross he met an English woman by the name of Denise and obviously had an affair with her. He divorced his wife Sherry in 1990 and married Denise in 1990. At that time he was 49 and Denise was about 29. This was a man leaving the wife of his youth to prove his virility. It was all about “self” and forget about the covenant with God and his wife Sherry and those children. But yet he says, “I just love Jesus.” According to the August 1990 Charisma and Christian Life magazine, “Blessitt said he felt this was God’s will for him at this time [to get the divorce].” God’s will for him to divorce his wife! Please!
On Arthur Blessitt’s web site, “Some Thoughts From Arthur” reads:
I begin the new century with thrilling excitement. I…have been committed to following Jesus all my life…I love God and I love people….I love to do anything I feel Jesus tell me to do. My thrill is to please my Lord. (www.blessitt.com/news.html).
Oh, is that right, Arthur. Arthur, do you really think you are pleasing your Lord in that adulterous relationship with Denise? No! You’re not. God is grieved over the fact that you sinned by breaking the marriage vows with Sherry and now by continuing to live in that adulterous relationship with Denise.
Should you visit Mr. Blessitt’s site, you will discern how “full of himself” he is. It’s all about Arthur and what he’s done. On Trinity Broadcasting Network’s September 22, 2000 program, I heard Arthur Blessitt say, I love fallen men and women. What do you suppose he meant by that, being that he’s a fallen man whether he realizes it or not?
Sandi Patty: The very popular Christian singer had an affair with Don Peslis who was touring with her as one of her backup singers – “all just singing to the glory of God.” Divorced from her husband in 1993, she married her lover in August 1995 that was also divorced. Sandy committed adultery and her first husband John Helvering has the right to remarry and not be considered an adulterer. Sandi, well, she is currently in adultery in her marriage to her lover who also had a wife. Oh, how complicated, you’re perhaps thinking. But it’s not at all. It’s simply adultery – violation of covenant with God and their mates while they carried on their little love affair.
In a 1998 Christianity Today article, Sandi is quoted as having said the following:
I am in awe. God still loves me! God still loves me.
Sandi, God never stopped loving you, but that doesn’t mean He has sanctified your marriage to the man you committed adultery with.
The owning, naming, and confessing of the sin in my life was the beginning of experiencing the freedom that only comes through Christ….
Yes, Sandi, that was only the beginning of freedom, but you won’t have total freedom until you come out of that adulterous relationship with Don Peslis, whom you call you husband when he’s not.
Charles Stanley: The 67 year old pastor of Atlanta’s First Baptist Church was divorced by his wife of 44 years in May 2000. The grounds for the divorce were that the marriage was “irretrievably broken.” Anna Stanley, that’s not found in The Bible as grounds for divorce. In God’s site, there is nothing that cannot be put together again, including Humpty Dumpty. There had to have been something else. But, whatever it was, God knows the truth. (a) If Charles Stanley engaged in “any” kind of sexual act with other than his wife, then she had Biblical grounds for the divorce and Charles Stanley should leave the pulpit because of fornication. (b) If Charles Stanley initiated the divorce but requested the wife to file because it would look bad for him, then Charles Stanley should leave the pulpit because he broke his marriage vows for reasons other than his wife having committed fornication. (c) If Anna divorced Charles Stanley simply because they don’t see eye-to-eye anymore – an “irretrievably broken marriage,” then Charles Stanley should remain in the pulpit, living a life of celibacy, and no dating, until either God restores his marriage or Anna dies.
Other well-known household names in the Christian world that are in adulterous relationships are: Amy Grant, Tammy Faye Bakker-Messner, Jim Bakker, Robert Tilton, W.V. Grant, Jr., A.A. Allen (deceased), Larry Lea, and good old self-proclaimed end-time false prophet, R.G. Stair, Prophetess Juanita Bynum-Weeks, Bishop Thomas W. Weeks, III, Bishop Eddie Long and the list goes on.
Divorce and remarriage is rampant amongst Born Again Believers in The Church of Jesus Christ. It is so cancerous that pastors and other leaders in The Church are divorcing their mates, to all appearances, for reasons other than fornication, and obviously think that God forgives them and they then turn around and marry a new mate whom God supposedly has brought their way. These people honestly believe that God okays divorce and remarriage. They think it’s life as usual.
Using statistics drawn from nationwide survey interviews with nearly 4000 adults….Among born again Christians, 27% are currently or have previously been divorced, compared to 24% among adults who are not born again. (Because of the large sample size involved, that difference is statistically significant)….Surprisingly, the Christian denomination whose adherents have the highest likelihood of getting divorced are Baptists*. Nationally, 29% of all Baptist adults have been divorced. The only Christian group to surpass that level are those associated with non-denominational Protestant churches: 34% of those adults have undergone a divorce*…. (Christianity Today Online. “Christians Are More Likely to Experience Divorce Than Are Non-Christians. December 21, 1999.)
God joins a man and a woman, He doesn’t separate them; and if a divorce is not permitted according to God’s Word, then the remarriage is not permitted as well. God is in the business of restoring marriages. In a marriage you don’t have to become a cow and jump over the moon for it to work. Simply be obedient to the marriage vows and not only will God bless you but He’ll bless the marriage as well. That’s part of the three-fold covenant (you, your mate, and God). God blesses covenant-keepers or people who keep their vows, and He curses those who don’t, including Born Again Christians. The key to being blessed in marriage is to keep the vows – your word must mean everything to God and to your mate. I repeat the following Scripture:
When thou vowest a vow unto God, defer not to pay it; for he hath no pleasure in fools: pay that which thou hast vowed. Better is it that thou shouldest not vow, than that thou shouldest vow and not pay (Ecclesiastes 5:4-5).
Before Jesus said that divorce and remarriage is the sin of adultery (except for fornication), He made it painfully clear that God’s Word on the issue had not softened and will not soften, when He said,
it is easier for heaven and earth to pass, than one tittle of the law to fail (Luke 16:17).
The law referenced in that verse of Scripture is not the carnal ordinance of Moses law (Are You Really Not Under The Law?) that were nailed to the cross with Jesus. The Law is God’s Word, His high holy standard – His instructions or His teachings for His people.
When it comes to divorcing and remarrying, obey God’s Word only. In His instructions He list fornication as the only grounds for divorce and that’s that. (1) The practice of marriages being annulled or rendered void is not in God’s Word and therefore disallowing annulment as an alternative to divorce. (The only real alternative to divorce is to remain married.) Absolutely no person can say that the marriage bond never existed regardless of the fact that the couple lived as though they were married, which is what annulments declare. Again, annulments are not of God and hence are not recognized by God. (2) For Heaven sake, pay absolutely no attention to the Rabbis of old who wrote in the Talmud that one may divorce his wife if she burned his soup, or even if he finds a prettier woman than she. That goes against God’s Word and is therefore not of God.
Pastors and all church leaders who not only win souls to The Lord, but also feed those very same souls, are to be examples of doing God’s will. They are to be examples of righteousness and holiness that equals to obedience to God’s will according to His Word. Jesus was The Church’s example and those in position of Church leadership are compelled to be examples as well by not committing adultery. No one escapes adultery when he or she divorces and remarries; nor when the result of one divorcing a mate and that mate remarries. No one escapes adultery.
You in The Church of Jesus Christ, if you are righteous, you will hate lying – hate the lying spirit that is in those who don’t keep their promises. They are covenant breakers and you must keep your distance from them until they get it right with God. But, no, you instead sit under their ministries, invite them to preach and teach in your churches, purchase their recordings, and have them come entertain you. By you doing this, you are supporting their sin and that is a slap in God’s face. It’s a slap in God’s face because you are not taking His Word to heart in judgment of the covenant breakers. Do understand, you are not judging but God and His Word is doing the judging, and all you’re doing is going by His Word which is in you, if it is. You’re so afraid that you might be judging these covenant breakers and not loving them, but when you accept them in their adulterous state, you are not loving God and you’re not loving them because you’re encouraging them to remain in their sin. God forbid!
Church of Jesus Christ, it must be put to you bluntly for there is just no other way to say it. When you sit under the ministries of these men and women who divorced their mates for reasons other than fornication, you are supporting them in adultery. Yes, adultery! They are parading before you with a Bible in their dirty hands and Jesus’ name rolling off their filthy lips, and you receive it with an open heart. Please understand, if they ever had an anointing upon them, they don’t have it now. It’s gone because of the adulterous state they are in. Those preachers in particular know that God’s Spirit isn’t upon them. So they pretend. They lie as they go through the motions of one with the anointing on him or her. These people are not illiterate. They do their homework and put together a fairly decent sermon. But, it takes more than that. If the Spirit of God is not upon that person delivering the message, it is also not on the message. Saints, these adulterous people are fooling you because you can be fooled. Get tired of being fooled and get from under them. Search out the real stuff! You’re dying and you don’t even know it.
Those of you sitting under adulterous leaders, you must question your walk with God. You receive those adulterous leaders because your walk is not right with God. Since your walk is not right with God, you see nothing wrong in what they are doing. These people do not have a godly ministry because of the sin of adultery, and God is not winking at this immorality. That’s it. It’s immoral what these leaders are engaging in, and you are letting the Devil make a fool of you by saying “you’re being judgmental” or “that’s not loving them.” If by using God’s Word to point out sin you are accused of being judgmental, then so be it. Better before God to be accused of such than to be approving of such sin as adultery in The Church. Church, it’s time to get it right.
Something had to be said about the sin of divorce and remarriage in The Church of Jesus Christ and God impressed upon my spirit to speak forth on the matter that is out of hand. I am not judging in what has been said because I am not in the position to do so. God alone is in the position to judge, which is why I used the Word of God and the natural facts already public knowledge to say what I have had to say in this message. My dear brothers and sisters in Christ, it is God’s Word that is judging, not I.
The word to you from The Lord is to cut loose from these ministries whose leaders are in adulterous relationships because He will never have His people sit in a house of sin.
stop patronizing those entertainers who are in adultery, even as this is written. When you patronize them you are telling them everything is okay when everything is not okay. These people are exploiting you.
stop having those evangelist come into your churches while they are yet in adultery, for they have nothing to feed you but death.
If you hated this rebuke, you are foolish.
Jesus is purging His Church.”
PS: This is also applicable to all of you sitting in the church pews every week while still in adulterous marriages.
It seems also that lying, cheating, stealing, adultery, pornography, alcoholism, slander, gossiping, etc., is something that too many pastors also cannot give up on these days too. They are all going to Hell not Heaven as well..
(Heb 3:10 KJV) Wherefore I was grieved with that generation, and said, They do alway err in their heart; and they have not known my ways. 11 So I sware in my wrath, They shall not enter into my rest.) 12 Take heed, brethren, lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief, in departing from the living God. 13 But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin. 14 For we are made partakers of Christ, if we hold the beginning of our confidence stedfast unto the end;
(Rev 21:27 KJV) And there shall in no wise enter into it any thing that defileth, neither whatsoever worketh abomination, or maketh a lie: but they which are written in the Lamb’s book of life.
(Rev 22:14 KJV) Blessed are they that do his commandments, that they may have right to the tree of life, and may enter in through the gates into the city. 15 For without are dogs, and sorcerers, and whoremongers, and murderers, and idolaters, and whosoever loveth and maketh a lie.
(1 Cor 6:9 KJV) Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
Some of the reasons that relationships and even marriages fail are unrealistic expectations, greed, lies, laziness and a spouse has false personal values, false assumptions, -the myth of the greener grass, and also the inablity to handle the sheer pace, stress of of life. And for sure sexual infidelity will tend to kill a marriage, be an immediate grounds for a divorce too.
The Marriages that slide downward go through these stages: romance, reality, resentment, unforgiveness – bitterness and rebellion – divorce.
still excludes the common realty also that bad friends, bad relatives, others do work hard to break up the marriages too….
Key steps that help to break this cycle and to change marriages are for a start…
–First, open your life fully to God. (Luke 6:27). Without God in control of your life these days it is likely your marriage ALSO next will fail
-Second, follow God’s ways continually. (Ephesians 5:1)
– Honor each other: be faithful and committed, recognize the dignity and special worth of all others, admire, affirm and celebrate each other, and avoid continual fault-finding.
Our personal beliefs and feelings toward people tend to follow what we believe about them. A judgment is MY interpretation of someone’s life at a point in time, it still doesn’t give the whole picture and becomes a label by which I narrowly view and interpret that person. What are some reasons some people too often “put-down” or judge others rather than affirm, accept them with Christ’s unconditional love? They firstly do not have the real love themselves. They likely come from troubled, divorced homes or are in a troubled marriage, home.
“A love that cherishes is patient and kind (1 Cor. 13:4). To be patient means “to take a long time to boil” and is the opposite of rudeness and irritability. Patience celebrates our strengths and validates our uniqueness. Kindness involves being gentle, sensitive, considerate, thoughtful and helpful to make life easier for the other person.
Such love enjoys giving attention to the other, spending time together. (Eccl. 9:9) Such love enjoys expressing affection to the other, including sexual intimacy for those who are married.(1 Corinthians 7:2-5). Such love enjoys growing spiritually with the other, together opening our lives to God and praying, together getting to know Him better and together following His ways.
(2 Peter 3:18).
“How incredible it would be if in all of our relationships–with God, with our husbands and wives, with our families and with our friends–we could experience great delight!” (Schorr Line, May 29, 2009) Centre Street Church is affiliated with the Evangelical Missionary Church of Canada http://www.cschurch.ca/